The Mismatched Sex Partner Problem

It seems as if it’s difficult to find a sex partner you can trust that has the same interest in sex as you do. You may be attracted to that person, you may love to fuck that person, but sometimes it seems as if the person you’re with isn’t into the same sex interests that you’re into. It’s like the equilibrium has changed, the pendulum constantly swaying, while you’re wanting to try different things, and your partner isn’t.

Being stuck in a rut when it comes to sex is such a frustrating thing. Often, when you’re in a romantic relationship, sometimes you just don’t want to do the same missionary/blowjob/pussy eating/in bed thing that you’ve always done. Sometimes you want to try a new sex game, or be tied up in bed, or want to fuck in a different “venue”, or want to bring in a third party, etc…and someone isn’t willing or wanting to spoil the fun. And then, you feel like an ass because you’re always the one making up new ideas, and you’re stringing along your partner because your partner is just too lazy or too scared or just isn’t imaginative enough to do something new in the sack, and you end up doing the same old boring thing.

Don’t get me wrong – sex is an awesome experience. I wouldn’t turn down a good fuck at all (mind you, key word here is “good”, LOL). But sometimes, the same type of sex over and over and over again can get kind of…well...STALE. You definitely want to try something new once that happens, right?

I run into that problem quite often, and I believe there are a lot of you that do too. I understand that there will be things that you aren’t willing to do, and there will be some disagreements, and that’s fine. What frustrates me is the fact that some people aren’t willing to try something new.

What is it about experimentation in sex that scares people away? Is it the fact that they don’t want to be labeled as a “sex freak”, an abnormal type of person in society? That we all have to share the same types of sexual frustrations, fuck the same way, through all the rigid avenues of the whitest of vanilla sex? That just seems like a boring way to live life, in my honest opinion.

The mind is such a sexual organ, and if we don’t use that, we are wasting our sexual lives away. Even if all you want to do is vanilla sex, you could think of surprising your partner with a trail of sexy notes in all of his pockets, or leaving a cum-soaked lacy thong under his pillow, or play some kind of sexual foreplay…or better yet, experiment with a whip and a paddle, decked in leather…

There is nothing wrong with stretching your imagination and experimenting in sex. Be willing to open your minds and expand your sexual limitations, and learn something new about sex, and about yourself. Listen to your partners, maybe you may find out about something new that you’ll want to add to your sex favorites!!